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British writer Sophie Paluch says separate bedrooms saved her marriage, proving good sleep and personal space can strengthen love, not weaken it
Sophie Paluch insists it’s far better to sleep well apart than to argue in the same bed. (News18)
While love and harmony are essential in relationships, individual needs are just as important. Many societal expectations often overshadow our comfort and happiness. One such belief is that married couples must always share the same bed. But does this necessarily guarantee a restful night’s sleep or a healthy relationship? British author and podcaster Sophie Paluch challenges this notion. By sleeping in separate rooms from her husband, she not only improved her sleep but also saved their nine-year marriage. Her story offers a fresh perspective for couples willing to prioritise their rest.
Breaking The Norm: Separate Beds For Better Sleep
Sophie Paluch notes that when she reveals she sleeps in a separate bed from her husband, people are often taken aback. In our culture, it’s typical for married couples to share a bed, say goodnight, and cuddle up. However, how many actually enjoy an uninterrupted night’s rest?
According to Sophie Paluch, very few. She and her husband have been together for 14 years, married for nine, and despite societal norms, they have spent most of that time sleeping separately, which has strengthened their relationship.
A Journey To Better Sleep
Sophie Paluch recalls that when they first met, she could sleep anywhere, even through a fire alarm at a hostel, despite not having consumed alcohol. She finds reading before bed relaxing, ensuring she gets at least eight hours of sleep.
Her husband, however, struggles with sleep; he wakes frequently, is easily disturbed by noise, and snores loudly. This caused many disputes when they first moved in together, as his restless sleep would wake her, leaving them both exhausted and irritable in the mornings.
Finding A Solution: Separate Rooms
Sophie Paluch believes that knowing other couples also slept separately might have helped. They accepted that although they loved each other and enjoyed spending time together, their differing sleep needs were causing friction. They decided to sleep in separate rooms and on separate beds.
As reported by the Daily Mail, after 14 years together and with two children, Sophie Paluch believes prioritising their sleep has strengthened their marriage. They still spend quality time together in the evenings and share morning tea but sleep apart.
When asked if sleeping separately affects their relationship, Sophie Paluch answers yes, but positively. She is puzzled as to why sleeping in separate rooms is often viewed negatively. She insists it’s far better to sleep well apart than to argue in the same bed. A healthy marriage, she says, involves growing together while respecting personal space and individual needs.
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